You’ve spent way too much time waiting for someone else to pick you. Whether it’s for a date, a new job, or just a solid friendship, every time you aren’t "the one," it feels like proof of that old fear. You start believing you just aren’t good enough.

Maybe you walk into a bar and feel invisible, or you spend your nights swiping through apps only to collect rejections while other guys seem to get all the attention. When you finally do meet someone, you immediately start changing yourself to fit what you think they want. You laugh at jokes that aren't funny and hide the parts of you that feel "too much" just to stay safe. Then, when they pull away, it crushes you because it feels like evidence that you were never enough to begin with.

In this episode, we’re looking at why your brain is so obsessed with collecting proof of rejection while ignoring every bit of connection and value you actually have. We’ll talk about where this pattern actually started and how you’ve been giving your power away to people who never even asked for it. It is time to stop waiting for someone else to give you permission to matter and start choosing yourself instead.

If you’re tired of handing people a scorecard the moment you meet them, join us at thefreedomcommunity.com. You’ll find a group of gay men doing this exact work to reclaim their worth from the inside out.

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