In this episode, I sit down with Bryan Power to talk about what happens when relationship patterns finally catch up with you and what it really takes to change them.

Before Bryan began studying attachment styles and emotional healing, his marriage had reached a breaking point, including a restraining order from his wife (nothing violent) a moment that forced him to confront the deeper wounds driving his behaviour. What followed was a powerful journey of self-discovery, where he began unpacking the subconscious trauma passed down through generations, growing up with parents who were doing the best they could while carrying their own unresolved pain.

We explore how attachment styles are shaped in childhood, how trauma gets inherited, and why these patterns are not a life sentence they are something we can work with and move through.

Bryan also shares a huge shift that changed his relationships: learning the difference between listening defensively versus listening to understand. We talk about how many conflicts aren’t about the words being said, but about two nervous systems trying to protect themselves.

Now, Bryan helps others identify their emotional blocks and teaches what secure love actually looks like in practice not perfection, but awareness, responsibility, and choice.

This is an honest, hopeful conversation about breaking cycles, healing old wounds, and learning how to love in healthier ways even when your past didn’t teach you how.

We dive into the subconscious wounds that shape our emotional wiring and learn why the things we react to in conflict often aren’t about the fight they’re about our unmet needs from long ago. We talk about how to listen during arguments with curiosity instead of defence, how to lead by example in relationships, and most importantly, why your attachment style isn’t a death sentence it’s a starting point for growth.

Whether you’re in a long-term partnership, somewhere in between, or healing alone, this conversation offers practical insight, personal stories, and hope for becoming more secure, more conscious, and more connected both to others and to yourself.