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Redefining Romance: Intentional Connection, Love Languages, and What Makes It Land

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 Redefining Romance: Intentional Connection, Love Languages, and What Makes It Land Tammy and Norman, therapists and a married couple, discuss what romance means, why it is a loaded and individualized concept, and how couples often miss each other when they are speaking different "romantic languages." They focus on American cultural influences on romance (movies, social media, Valentine's Day, gender norms) and challenge myths about grand gestures, effortlessness, and romance fading over time. They share examples of differing romantic expectations, including Norman learning early that romance meant spending money and Tammy's family experience of gift-giving, and they describe a time when a romantic gesture didn't land due to emotional disconnection during a rough spot around their one-year mark. They distinguish love (commitment and care), connection (emotional presence), and romance (intentional expression of desire, affection, and priority), emphasizing that romance is a practice rather than proof of love and requires communication. They explore how romance changes after new relationship energy and how life stressors, work, kids, and trauma can affect romance; romance doesn't need to be constant but should be intentional and consistent, like "oil" in a relationship. They outline common expressions of romance—quality time, physical touch, sexual energy without comparison or a universal "normal," acts of service (e.g., making breakfast), emotional safety and vulnerability, playfulness (including board games), and consistency. They briefly address neurodivergence and trauma triggers (e.g., hugging from behind) as reasons romantic gestures may be misread, recommending curiosity and conversation rather than taking it personally. They offer three partner questions: what makes you feel desired, what kills romance for you, and what the other person does that makes you feel special, and close by encouraging listeners to define romance for themselves as intentional and attuned rather than expensive or dramatic. 00:51 Why Romance Feels So Loaded (and Not Universal) 01:20 Where Our Romance Scripts Come From: Movies, Social Media & Valentine's Day 02:13 Myths & Mismatched "Romantic Languages" (Plus the Carved Spoon Story) 03:42 What Romance Means to Us: Family Influence & Early Lessons 06:41 Gender Expectations: Gifts, Thoughtfulness… and Lingerie? 09:28 When Romance Falls Flat: Timing, Disconnection & Different Headspaces 13:39 Love vs Connection vs Romance (and Why Communication Is the Fix) 17:15 Practical Example: Asking for What You Want (Touch & Guidance) 18:08 How Romance Changes Over Time: New Relationship Energy (NRE) 18:27 Why Romance Fades in Long-Term Relationships (Stress, Kids, Work) 20:02 Romance = Intention: Scheduling "Sacred Time" & Recreating Early Effort 22:24 Is Your Relationship Worth the Effort? The New-Relationship-Energy Trap 23:33 When Romance Is Absent: Disconnection, Resentment & the Vicious Cycle 24:17 Romance Isn't Constant: The "Oil in the Engine" Metaphor 25:38 The Nitty-Gritty: What Romance Looks Like (Quality Time, Touch, Gifts) 26:37 Sexual Energy Over Time: Find Your Normal (No Comparing) 28:47 Acts of Service & Emotional Safety: Vulnerability Needs Trust 30:26 Playfulness & Consistency: Keeping Romance from Feeling Performative 33:11 Neurodivergence & Trauma: When "Romantic" Gestures Land Wrong 35:47 3 Questions to Ask Your Partner + Closing Reflections on Redefining Romance
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