Real love is unconditional. People are different. These are two statements with which most adults would agree. Yet, while recognizing that we are different is an essential part of creating a positive and loving relationship, many of us are instead intent on changing our partners so that they act and react more like ourselves. According to Dr. Gray, unconditional love is not possible without the recognition and acceptance of our differences. It is only through respecting and even appreciating them that we can eliminate many of the problems that plague our relationships.

Overcoming differences such as those found in how men and women communicate, how they cope with stress and deal with conflict resolution, as well as what it means to each gender to feel loved, is a major step toward giving of ourselves unconditionally and achieving happiness and fulfillment in our relationships. Each of us is unique, stop denying it and start celebrating it! It's the very essence not only of a loving and mutually supportive relationship, but of a better world for us all.