Have you lied so much to yourself that it begins to look like the truth? Has selfishness eaten so deep into your marriage that you see yourself as the victim in your marriage? What were your dreams when you said "I do"?

Most people began the marriage journey with the destination in mind, but they soon discover that where they are is anywhere but marital bliss. As they grapple with challenges in marriage, they look around in perplexity and utter dismay wondering to themselves - how did we get here? It is about honest self-examination, intended for a listener to look inward as against pointing accusing fingers at what a partner has done, is doing, or about to do. To resolve conflicts in any marriage requires that couples cast their minds back to their original intention for marriage and genuinely strive to make it work. People could lie so much to themselves for so long that the lie begins to look like the truth. This book is intended to serve as a catalyst for change in your marriage. My earnest desire is that after listening tothis book, you will be true to yourself and identify the area(s) in your marriage that need urgent attention. It is about you, the listener!

Michael Pudia Olorogun is a retired naval officer (Nigerian Navy), retired adult nurse (UK), and an ordained minister of the gospel. For over three decades, he has been involved in marriage counselling across the continents. Apart from his public speaking roles, he is also a facilitator in many training programs for church workers. Mike Olorogun’s first book on marriage, Think Before You Say, I Do has been adopted as a manual for those intending to get married and the married alike. Its sequel, Now That You Are Married is an eye-opener for those already married. He is also the author of one of the most elaborate books on church protocol personnel – Armour Bearers.