How We Change
(And Ten Reasons Why We Don't)
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How We Change
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Nathan Agin
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Ross Ellenhorn
A paradigm-shifting, instant classic in the making that challenges our assumptions about change by encouraging us to understand and embrace our resistance to it.
We all have something we want to change about ourselves. But whether it's quitting smoking, losing weight, or breaking some common bad habit or negative behavior pattern, we feel a sense of failure when we don’t succeed. This often sets off a cascade of negative feelings and discouragement, making it even harder to change. The voice in our head tells us: Why bother?
Successful change depends far more on understanding why we don’t change, psychotherapist and sociologist Ross Ellenhorn insists. His decades-long career as a pioneer in helping people overcome extreme psychiatric experiences and problematic substance use issues—especially those whom the behavioral healthcare system has failed—especially those whom the mental healthcare system has failed—has lead him to develop an effective, long-term method to achieve transformation, from the simplest shifts to the most profound. In How We Change, Ellenhorn looks to the evolutionary imperatives driving us. We are wired to double down on the familiar because of what he calls the Fear of Hope—the act of protecting ourselves from further disappointment. He identifies the “10 Reasons Not to Change” to help us see why we behave the way we do, making it clear that there is nothing broken inside us—it’s how we’re built. By addressing this little known reality, he gives us hope and helps us work toward the change we seek.
Ellenhorn speaks to the core of our insecurities and fears about ourselves, with a humor and kindness. By turning our judgements about self-destructive behaviors into curious questions about them, he teaches us to think about our actions to discover what we truly want—even if we’re going about getting it in the wrong way. How We Change is a brilliant approach that will forever alter our perspective—and help us achieve the transformation we truly seek.
Supplemental enhancement PDF accompanies the audiobook.
The writing style felt pretentious and unnecessarily complicated. I was waiting for the author to get to the point a lot, not just because of the wording, but also because of the general story telling of the book.
I do think there is some truth to most of the main points that are being made, but I very much disliked the universal appliance of it. It felt unprofessional, again pretentious, and led to some wrong explanations for observations about complex situations.
All of the diet culture talk was not only uncomfortable but also unuseful and makes the author lack credibility. I also think that you should only write about what you really know and admit if something is not your expertise and have an understanding that there are always different factors and to put those into account, analysing more from a bottom to top approach than top to bottom.
As a foreign english speaker it was also hard to follow some of it, because most of it is worded in an unnecessarily complicated way. That would have been better if I had read it instead of listened bc I would’ve had the time to process it and could’ve looked up words if necessary.
What REALLY pissed me off was all of the “he or she” “if a person …. she ….”. I do not understand why you would use that binary language in a language where you HAVE THE OPPORTUNITY not to do that. And it’s even less complicated and does not sound so annoying and wrong like … the word person is not gendered why is it a she suddenly. And it is very much written from a white cis man who does not see his privilege perspective. Talking about such big and universal issues, one should be able to see that some thought was given to people who come from other backgrounds and situations.
Nothing that he said really blew my mind or was particularly new to me as well. Yes when you have hope you can get disappointed there’s no need to explain that concept for two hours as if you just made some genius observation.
I’m very surprised that I did not like the book because my favourite psychology / self help youtuber Heidi Priebe recommended it and I always like the way she explains stuff and I always understand new things through her videos.
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