Concerns about our bodies are common and part of being human. For some people, they remain occasional worries. For others, they begin to take up more attention, influence mood and shape everyday choices about food, movement, relationships and confidence.

In this episode of The Choice Space, Dr Lee David is joined by Joanna Silver, a psychologist specialising in eating disorders and body image difficulties, to explore why appearance-related distress can become so persistent – and what can genuinely help.

They discuss body image as something that exists on a continuum, from everyday dissatisfaction to more intense distress that narrows attention and reduces quality of life. Joanna explains how self-worth can become overly linked to weight or shape, why comparison often increases distress, and how cultural messages, family language and social media all shape how we relate to our bodies.

Rather than framing body image as something to fix or eliminate, the conversation approaches it as a relationship – one that can soften and become more balanced over time. They explore why change is rarely linear, how shame thrives when concerns stay hidden, and why curiosity and kindness are often more helpful than self-criticism.

The episode also includes a Choice Pause – a short, guided moment to help create space from comparison and reconnect with what matters in the present moment.

This is a compassionate, practical discussion about understanding body image distress and finding steadier ways to care for our bodies, even on difficult days..

Key moments

00:39 Why body image concerns are common and when they become more distressing
03:50 When self-worth becomes tied to appearance
07:12 How family, culture and language shape body image
09:16 Comparison, social media and increased distress
11:26 Signs body image concerns may be affecting daily life
15:27 Shame, secrecy and the value of talking
19:31 The Choice Pause creating space from comparison
22:04 Relating to body image as a relationship
28:47 Shifting focus from appearance to function
35:15 Body distress as a signal
40:34 Small steps towards a kinder relationship with the body

About the Guest

Joanna Silver is a Counselling Psychologist who specialises in working with people affected by Eating Disorders, Body Dysmorphic Disorder and body image problems. She works as the Lead Psychological Therapist at Orri, a treatment centre for people with Eating Disorders. I am passionate about bringing compassionate, evidence-based conversations about mental health and body image into the public space.

You can connect with Joanna via Linked in

Beat eating disorders charity

About the host

Dr Lee David is a GP, CBT therapist and author specialising in mental health and wellbeing. Lee has written many books on CBT, mindfulness and teen wellbeing, and speaks regularly at conferences and in the media. Away from work she enjoys running, hiking, singing in a choir and spending time outdoors with her family. You can find Lee through her website and on Instagram, TikTok (@dr.lee.david), Facebook and LinkedIn. You can find more about her books, wellbeing courses and therapy here: https://linktr.ee/dr.lee.david