On this insightful episode of The Elisha Show, Amb. Elisha sits down with Valerie Greene, relationship coach and intimacy expert, to unpack one of the biggest frustrations in modern dating — why we keep attracting emotionally unavailable partners and how to finally break the pattern.

Valerie shares her personal journey from constant conflict and unhealthy relationship cycles to building a thriving marriage rooted in emotional depth and connection. After years of doing the inner work herself, she now helps singles attract lasting love and teaches couples how to transform conflict into deeper intimacy.

In this episode, you’ll discover:

• Why we attract people who treat us the way we treat ourselves

• How your nervous system — not your logic — chooses your partners

• The difference between having fun chemistry and having emotional compatibility

• Subtle “green flags” and “red flags” to look for when dating

• How to test emotional availability without oversharing

• Why shared values matter more than shared interests

• How to turn everyday conflict into connection instead of escalation

Valerie also draws from the work of leading relationship researchers like John Gottman and Sue Johnson, blending attachment science with practical communication tools.

One of the biggest takeaways?

Conflict is not the enemy. Disconnection is.

When we move from a “right vs. wrong” mindset into understanding feelings and unmet needs, arguments shift from power struggles into opportunities for intimacy.

If you’re tired of situationships…

If you keep meeting charming but emotionally distant partners…

Or if you’re in a relationship that feels stuck in recurring arguments…

This conversation will challenge you to do the deeper inner work that changes everything.

Because love isn’t just about attraction.

It’s about emotional availability — starting with yourself.

Reach Valerie: https://coachvaleriegreene.com/free-strategy-session/

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