Have you ever heard the term “non-attachment” and quietly thought… that sounds like not caring?

Or maybe even worse, that it means staying calm while someone crosses your boundaries? This episode gently untangles that misunderstanding.

In this episode, Lauren Dry, Master Marriage Coach and founder of Rise into Regulation™, explores what non-attachment actually means through the lens of attachment theory and nervous system regulation. She unpacks why perceived relationship threat, even something as subtle as tone or body language, can spike your reactivity at home, and why clarity disappears the moment your nervous system feels unsafe.

Rather than asking you to suppress your feelings or be peaceful no matter what, this conversation is about accessing regulation in a way that gives you certainty. Certainty in your values. Certainty in your boundaries. Certainty in how you communicate.

You’ll hear about:

1. Why relationship threat increases reactivity, especially for high-achievers
2. What regulation really is, clarity in your body, not forced calm
3. The “gray rock” visualisation and how it protects you in complicated dynamics
4. Why over-explaining your boundaries invites negotiation instead of respect
5. What secure attachment and healthy non-attachment actually look like in real life

If you’re tired of rescuing, then resenting, this conversation will help you understand what’s really happening underneath it. Non-attachment isn’t about distance. It’s about staying rooted in your values while allowing other people to have their own feelings. Clarity and ease don’t come from convincing or controlling. They come from regulation, and from knowing you can hold your ground without hardening your heart.

Resources & Links:

🌐 Learn more about Rise into Regulation™, the skillset for connection, communication, and Nervous System safety in modern marriage.

📱 Follow Lauren on Instagram @lauren_dry

Listen to Connected Boundaries episode here

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Big love,

Lauren x