The Tinder Swindler: Red Flags, Fake Love & Choosing Yourself

Before we start — yes, you'll notice my voice changes - I was getting over an illness so sorry!! Also, you might hear kids, background noise, or life happening. This is a house, not a Netflix studio.

And no, this is not medical advice. This is real life, reflection, and keeping it real. Everybody relax.

In this episode of I talk about the Tinder Swindler — not like a documentary, but like we’re sitting together saying, “Wait… how did this even happen?”

This isn’t about stupid women or bad choices. It’s about manipulation, love bombing, fear, and how someone can turn romance into a crime. We break down how the scam actually worked, the red flags many of us ignore, and the emotional and financial damage left behind.

We slow it down, reflect, and talk about why hope can be dangerous when it’s used against you and why choosing yourself is not selfish, it’s survival.

There’s grounding, there’s comfort food energy, and there’s a reminder that if you’ve ever ignored your gut because you wanted something to be real… you’re not broken. You’re human.

Listener discretion advised for discussions of fraud, emotional manipulation, and financial loss.

Sources and the Real life facts - (Because we don't make shit up here):

This episode is based on documented reporting and verified information related to the case commonly known as The Tinder Swindler, involving Simon Leviev.

Where the information comes from:

Netflix documentary: The Tinder Swindler

Victim accounts, timeline of the scam, and confirmed patterns of fraud

International journalism and investigative reporting

Coverage of financial fraud, manipulation tactics, and legal context

Public court records and statements

Information regarding fraud accusations and financial crimes

Important things to say out loud:

This case involves financial fraud and emotional manipulation, which are real crimes.

Victims are not responsible for being deceived.

Shame keeps people quiet — and that benefits scammers.

This episode isn’t about judging who you date.

It’s about recognizing patterns, protecting yourself, and realizing that wanting love doesn’t make you weak — it makes you human.

Not judging, from La Dama del Desmadre just keeping it real.