How does gaslighting actually break a person down — and why is it so effective in narcissistic abuse?

In this episode of Experts Explain Trauma, Lisa Tickel talks with Tim Fletcher about the mechanics of gaslighting: how it erodes identity, trains people to doubt themselves, and creates the perfect environment for control. Tim connects the patterns of childhood conditioning to adult relationships, and explains why building safety and outside support is essential to recover.

This conversation is for anyone trying to make sense of confusing, manipulative interactions — or for those supporting someone who’s been gaslit.

If this resonated, share one word in the comments that describes how you felt while watching — it helps others know they’re not alone.

About Tim Fletcher:

Tim Fletcher is the founder of RE/ACT (Recovery Education for Addictions and Complex Trauma). Known for his practical, no-fluff teaching style, Tim helps people understand complex trauma, addiction, and mental health with clarity and compassion.

A former engineer and pastor turned trauma educator, Tim draws from his own family’s experiences with mental illness and addiction, as well as decades of counseling work. His groundbreaking insights—like the 12 Basic Needs and 60 Characteristics of Complex Trauma—have helped thousands understand why they feel broken, and how to heal with the right tools and support.

Tim is passionate about helping people break free from destructive cycles and rebuild their lives from the inside out—with safety, support, and practical steps forward.

🔗 Connect with Tim:

Website: timfletcher.ca

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TimFletcher

Instagram/Facebook/TikTok: @timfletcherco.accelyouth6398

Links & Resources

• Healing Starter Kit → https://lisa-tickel.kit.com/62c7639811

• Women’s Healing Workshop → https://healingworkshop.carrd.co/

• Join the Healing Community → https://womenshealingcommunity.carrd.co/