There is a version of “getting your life together” that looks impressive on the outside… But inside, you’re still disconnected, overwhelmed, and avoiding what actually needs attention.

In this episode, Amber breaks down the critical difference between numbing and healing. From overworking and over-socializing to wellness routines that look healthy but function as a distraction. Amber explains how many of us are performing healing instead of actually doing it.

She shares candid personal examples and client patterns that reveal a hard truth: staying busy, productive, spiritual, or disciplined can still be a way of running from grief, anger, fear, or unmet needs. She reminds us: “Relief is not the same as repair. Numbing postpones. Healing asks you to stay…”

Amber unpacks how social media wellness culture and therapy speak can reinforce avoidance, why coping tools are often mistaken for healing, and how unchecked numbing quietly postpones the breakthroughs we’re longing for.

Reflection questions:

• What am I feeling that I’m trying to avoid?
• Am I running toward something, or running away from something?
• How do I feel after I do the thing, relieved but anxious, or tired but more whole?
• What would happen if I sat with this feeling instead of escaping it?
• What am I afraid might surface if I slowed down?

Tune in as this episode is an invitation to stop checking boxes and start staying present.

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