Do our kids know we love them… but still not always feel it?

Rav Shlomo Katz and the women of Shirat David take on one of the most sensitive (and real) parenting questions: a parent can be full of love — and a child can still experience “You don’t love me.” How does that happen?

Building off last week’s foundation (that a parent’s love can’t be “perfect” in the way we wish it could be), we explore:

• Why a child’s inner world often works in all-or-nothing terms (“If it’s not 100%, it’s nothing”)
• How “You hate me” is rarely about facts — and almost always about experience
• The Chassidic idea that inside a “sheker” there can be a spark of truth to redeem (instead of reacting defensively)
• Why the first move isn’t “fix it” — it’s finding the shoresh (where the feeling is coming from)

And we end with a powerful next step for the series: the importance of verbal love — bituy miluli — especially for parents who struggle to express what they deeply feel.

A shiur about love, truth, and building a home where children can walk with a real “shield of love”, even when life gets messy.

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Chapters
00:00 Opening & Sponsorship Acknowledgements
01:26 Today’s Question: Do Children Feel Our Love?
04:39 Three Types of Parental Responses
05:51 Why Kids Don’t Always Experience Love
08:28 Validating Feelings vs Arguing Facts
09:32 What to Do When a Child Says “You Hate Me”
11:15 Find the Source Before Trying to Fix
15:24 The Assumption: The Feeling Isn’t “Factually True”
17:42 The Spark of Truth Inside a Child’s “Sheker”
22:30 Where Real Insight Comes From
23:35 End-of-Life Regrets: Work vs Home
24:45 The Pride of Providing — and What Kids Still Need
26:16 Obligation vs Love (and how kids read it)
28:01 If Love Were “Perfect,” Kids Would Feel It Naturally
33:31 The Weak Spot: Where Kids Find “Proof” You Don’t Love Them
36:47 The “Love Funnel” and Why Leaks Change Everything
43:38 Next Week: The Power of Verbal Love
44:41 Personal Story: A Home of Tears & Expression
45:59 The Airport Handshake Moment
47:12 Why That Handshake Stayed for 20+ Years
48:34 Closing + Hope for the Week