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Your partner promises to change — but nothing ever sticks.

In this episode, Dr. Dar Hawks explains why change fails in relationships even when intentions are sincere, and why pressure, over-explaining, and “trying harder” often make things worse.

You’ll learn:

• Why promises don’t equal capacity
• The role emotional safety plays in lasting change
• How unmet relationship needs block follow-through
• Why this pattern isn’t your fault — and what actually helps

If you’re exhausted from repeating the same conversations and wondering whether real change is possible, this episode will give you clarity, relief, and next steps.

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