Today we respond to a powerful listener question that so many people silently struggle with: why does rest feel lazy, selfish, or wrong… even when we know we need it?

A working mum of three writes in to share her guilt around slowing down, filling her own cup, and prioritising self-care without feeling like she’s letting everyone else down. Tess and Layne unpack why this guilt is so common, how it’s wired into our nervous system, and why constantly putting ourselves last can quietly lead to burnout, emotional overload, and disconnection.

This conversation dives deep into nervous system regulation, boundaries, breathwork, and the small daily practices that help us move out of fight-or-flight and back into presence, clarity and energy.

It’s practical, compassionate, and deeply relatable, especially if you’re feeling fried, wired, overwhelmed, or stuck on the hamster wheel.

In this episode, we talk about:

• Why guilt around rest and self-care is so common, especially for women
• How constantly putting others first can actually sabotage your wellbeing
• The difference between the sympathetic (stress) and parasympathetic (rest) nervous systems
• Early signs of burnout and nervous system overload
• Why multitasking during rest stops it from being restorative
• Creating clear work-life and role-based boundaries to show up more fully
• Simple daily rituals that genuinely refill your cup
• Why silence, stillness and micro-breaks matter more than productivity hacks
• Breathwork as the fastest way to regulate your nervous system
• Box breathing, physiological sighs, and slow exhales explained simply
• Why eating lunch away from your desk is one of the bravest acts of self-care
• The role of awe, nature and “touching green” in nervous system recovery
• How moments of awe help you step off the hamster wheel
• Creating a “love-to-do” list to reconnect with joy and energy
• Why rest isn’t selfish, it’s what allows you to show up better for everyone

We also explore:

• How to recognise when your nervous system is fried
• Practical boundaries you can put in place today
• Why scheduling and guarding rest is non-negotiable
• How small, consistent resets prevent burnout long-term

If you’ve been feeling tired, overstimulated, guilty for resting, or like you’re constantly pushing through, this episode will help you understand what’s happening in your body and give you real tools to reset.

And if you’re listening thinking, “I need support with this,” we share how you can join The Awake Collective for monthly coaching, accountability, community, and practical tools to keep doing the work.

Connect with Awake

• Join the Awake Collective Community for monthly masterclasses

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