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In this first-ever rainy meditation episode of Thank You Heartbreak, Chelsea Leigh Trescott guides you through a deeply Breakupward practice designed to help you confront the subtle, painful cost of staying quiet—whether in love, in life, or in your own self-expression.

Through this meditation, you’ll:

• Explore how self-abandonment shows up in relationships and your inner life.
• Witness the parts of yourself that crave love, attention, and validation—and learn how to honor them without losing your power.
• Practice reclaiming your voice, your boundaries, and your agency, even when it feels risky or vulnerable.
• Transform the ache of silence into a stepping stone toward self-love and clarity.

Inspired by the conversation in The Cost of Quiet episode — where we explore what happens when we suppress our needs, dismiss our instincts, or tolerate patterns that don’t serve us, this is a meditation for anyone who has stayed quiet to avoid conflict, to preserve a connection, or to feel “safe,” and is ready to step into a higher, more empowered way of being. Press play, tune in, and allow yourself to hear what your inner self has been quietly trying to tell you all along.

Chelsea Leigh Trescott:

Email: chelsea@breakupward.com

Instagram: https://instagram.com/thankyouheartbreak

Advice Column: https://www.huffpost.com

Writing: https://thoughtcatalog.com/chelsea-leigh-trescott

Have you ever noticed how, in love, we sometimes vanish before anyone asks us to? How we shrink, soften, and quiet ourselves—not because someone else forced us to, but because we learned avoidance as survival?

In this episode, I sit down with Colette Fehr, licensed marriage and family therapist and author of The Cost of Quiet: How to Have the Hard Conversations That Create Secure, Lasting Love. We dive into the patterns of self-silencing that many of us develop in relationships—patterns that quietly erode connection and teach us to disappear.

Colette’s book illuminates a truth that’s both shocking and liberating: it’s not only avoidant partners who create distance. Our own avoidance—our quiet quitting, our reluctance to speak up, our people-pleasing—shapes how we show up, how we love, and how we protect ourselves from rejection.

Together, we explore:

• How we become avoidant ourselves through self-silencing and people-pleasing
• The slow erosion of connection caused by avoiding the “hard conversations”
• Identifying our emotional triggers and taking full responsibility for our feelings
• Communication strategies that honor both our needs and our partner’s, without losing ourselves
• The radical Breakupward insight: noticing where we shrink is not shame—it’s a roadmap to reclaim our presence, voice, and boundaries

This conversation isn’t just about heartbreak. It’s about transformation: seeing the ways we’ve disappeared in love, understanding why, and learning how to step fully into ourselves again.

If you’ve ever felt the tension between wanting closeness and fearing conflict—or found yourself quietly giving up pieces of yourself to keep love intact—this episode is for you. Colette and I break down the psychology, the patterns, and the radical path to self-loyalty that emerges when we Breakupward.

Listen, lean in, and discover how your own avoidance has been both a signal and a teacher—and how reclaiming your voice can change everything.

Get in touch with Colette Fehr:

Website

Book

TEDx Talk

Podcast

Instagram

Chelsea Leigh Trescott:

Email: chelsea@breakupward.com

Instagram: https://instagram.com/thankyouheartbreak

Advice Column: https://www.huffpost.com

Writing: https://thoughtcatalog.com/chelsea-leigh-trescott

Heartbreak can turn even the strongest among us into tireless editors of the past. We replay scenes, bargain with “what if,” and try to outrun regret. This conversation changes that script. With transformation specialist Dr. Dravon James, we explore forgiveness not as a soft ideal but as a rigorous, practical pathway to real happiness. Acceptance—“it is what it is”—stops sounding like surrender and starts feeling like authorship. As Dravon says, you can’t change a yellow wall to blue without first naming yellow.

We dive into a blank-canvas practice that’s equal parts tender and disarming: release old labels, whisper “I am nothing,” and notice what appears. From that openness, the questions sharpen: Which version of me is complete? What wants to be created now? Along the way, we trade perfection for progress and explore how safety in relationships grows when we allow the power of “no.” Boundaries become bridges when consent enters hard conversations and curiosity replaces assumption. That’s where real repair begins.

Dravon’s insights on self-trust come alive here: before self-love, rebuild faith in your own choices by noticing how often you’ve already shown up for yourself. When we tune into that inner station, synchronicity feels less like luck and more like alignment. Sometimes the truth within says a long relationship has run its course. Hearing it is hard. Ignoring it is harder.

If you’re ready to stop punishing yourself, to let “no” deepen intimacy rather than threaten it, and to turn heartbreak into wisdom you can actually use, this episode is for you. Listen, share it with someone who needs a softer way forward, and leave a review so more people can find their path to everyday peace. Then tell us: what label are you ready to set down today?

Connect with Dr. Dravon James:

Website: https://drdravonjames.com

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drdravonjames

Facebook: www.facebook.com/everydaypeacewithdrdravonjames

Book: Forgiveness: The Pathway to Happiness

Chelsea Leigh Trescott:

Email: chelsea@breakupward.com

Instagram: https://instagram.com/thankyouheartbreak

Advice Column: https://www.huffpost.com

Writing: https://thoughtcatalog.com/chelsea-leigh-trescott