In this first episode of the You're Doing Great Podcast (formally known as the "Self Study Podcast,") Ruby and Kate roast the shamey, hustle-glossed corners of the self-help world (“wake up at 3am and cold plunge your way to enlightenment!”), then re-center what real growth looks like: honesty, community, sustainability, and treating your life like a gentle science experiment instead of a never-ending improvement project. It’s spicy, thoughtful, and very “you’re enough already.”

The Duality Project is Ruby & Kate’s umbrella for their work in honest, community-rooted growth. Think: real-talk education, coaching, and community that refuse shame and quick-fix hustle. It’s about holding both/and: your tenderness and your power, discipline and rest, individuality and interdependence... so you can choose what actually serves you.

• Heartland (their online community): monthly group calls, optional 1:1 coaching, and friendly 30-day micro-challenges to practice self-study in five minutes a day. aka: low-pressure reps for real life.

• Follow along: @thedualityproject (plus @life.with.ruby and @moore_kate).

• Get the book: My Self Study Practice Guided Workbook and Journal

The Duality Project is Ruby & Kate’s umbrella for their work in honest, community-rooted growth. Think: real-talk education, coaching, and community that refuse shame and quick-fix hustle. It’s about holding both/and: your tenderness and your power, discipline and rest, individuality and interdependence... so you can choose what actually serves you.

In this first episode of the You're doing Great Podcast (formally known as the "Self Study Podcast,") Ruby and Kate roast the shamey, hustle-glossed corners of the self-help world (“wake up at 3am and cold plunge your way to enlightenment!”), then re-center what real growth looks like: honesty, community, sustainability, and treating your life like a gentle science experiment instead of a never-ending improvement project. It’s spicy, thoughtful, and very “you’re enough already.”

• Heartland (their online community): monthly group calls, optional 1:1 coaching, and friendly 30-day micro-challenges to practice self-study in five minutes a day. aka: low-pressure reps for real life.

• Follow along: @thedualityproject (plus @life.with.ruby and @moore_kate).

• Get the book: My Self Study Practice Guided Workbook and Journal

Ruby and Kate suggest there's a better way to *make love* than by taking a bunch of self-help quizzes and trying to perform love. It can be better. They turn their (loving but not blind) gaze to one of pop-psychology’s favorite tools: “The 5 Love Languages.” While they acknowledge that frameworks can be useful, they also name the very real ways these ideas can be oversimplified, commercialized, and weaponized in relationships.

The Duality Project is Ruby & Kate’s umbrella for their work in honest, community-rooted growth. Think: real-talk education, coaching, and community that refuse shame and quick-fix hustle. It’s about holding both/and: your tenderness and your power, discipline and rest, individuality and interdependence... so you can choose what actually serves you.

• Heartland (their online community): monthly group calls, optional 1:1 coaching, and friendly 30-day micro-challenges to practice self-study in five minutes a day. aka: low-pressure reps for real life.

• Follow along: @thedualityproject (plus @life.with.ruby and @moore_kate).

• Get the book: My Self Study Practice Guided Workbook and Journal

The wives are tired. The husbands are tired. The internet pop-psychology that removes the nuance of our full-humanity as it doles out relationship advice, is tired. Our relationships that are fraught with power dynamics, unspoken expectations, and dated af rules, are tired.

In this episode, Kate & Ruby dive into the heart of relationships, not just the surface labels of it all. The hot take of being a good wife is that it's not about becoming better at playing a role in your marriage, it's about becoming more of who you already are.

There's a hot game of FMK at the end of this episode too featuring some of the internet's favorite men with microphones: Tim Ferris, Joe Rogan, and Andrew Huberman.

The Duality Project is Ruby & Kate’s umbrella for their work in honest, community-rooted growth. Think: real-talk education, coaching, and community that refuse shame and quick-fix hustle. It’s about holding both/and: your tenderness and your power, discipline and rest, individuality and interdependence... so you can choose what actually serves you.

• Heartland (their online community): monthly group calls, optional 1:1 coaching, and friendly 30-day micro-challenges to practice self-study in five minutes a day. aka: low-pressure reps for real life.

• Follow along: @thedualityproject (plus @life.with.ruby and @moore_kate).

• Get the book: My Self Study Practice Guided Workbook and Journal

It's all fun and games until we get angry. Welcome to this unplanned episode called Rapid Fire Rage featuring Kate, Ruby and special guest: Tini. From white guys with masters degrees to bluetooth malfunction, we rage. Anger is an emotion that so many of us have been taught to stuff down and pretend doesn't exist... obviously that isn't working. In this episode, we rage together. You're doing great. LFG!

The Duality Project is Ruby & Kate’s umbrella for their work in honest, community-rooted growth. Think: real-talk education, coaching, and community that refuse shame and quick-fix hustle. It’s about holding both/and: your tenderness and your power, discipline and rest, individuality and interdependence... so you can choose what actually serves you.

• Heartland (their online community): monthly group calls, optional 1:1 coaching, and friendly 30-day micro-challenges to practice self-study in five minutes a day. aka: low-pressure reps for real life.

• Follow along: @thedualityproject (plus @honeytrucker__ and @moore_kate).

• Get the book: My Self Study Practice Guided Workbook and Journal

There's no guidebook to parenting and it shows. From gentle parenting to authoritative parenting, am I doing it right?! On saving or protecting? Literally, how? And the power struggles from the toddler years and for the rest of your lives. Parenting is hard. Re-parenting is hard. We hope that this episode gives you hope and some peace: as a parent you can't get it all right. And your Self Study Practice will absolutely help you have the relationship with both your children and your parents that's possible.

The Duality Project is Ruby & Kate’s umbrella for their work in honest, community-rooted growth. Think: real-talk education, coaching, and community that refuse shame and quick-fix hustle. It’s about holding both/and: your tenderness and your power, discipline and rest, individuality and interdependence... so you can choose what actually serves you.

• Heartland (their online community): monthly group calls, optional 1:1 coaching, and friendly 30-day micro-challenges to practice self-study in five minutes a day. aka: low-pressure reps for real life.

• Follow along: @thedualityproject (plus @honeytrucker__ and @moore_kate).

• Get the book: My Self Study Practice Guided Workbook and Journal