In this episode, married queers Alix & Kayla debate one of the most polarizing topics in LGBTQ+ culture—from gay bars and lesbian parties to allies, baby gays, and the future of community spaces. It’s thoughtful, funny, deeply personal… and ends with the messiest Who’s the Problem yet (yes, it involves towels).

This conversation explores queer history, safety, allyship, feminism, chosen family, and why context matters more than hard rules.

00:00 – Intro: married, queer & back for the new year
02:10 – “Everyone’s a little bi?” identity & labels
04:30 – The real question: straight people in queer spaces
07:45 – Coming out in 2009 & first gay bar experiences
12:05 – Why queer spaces feel intimidating (and necessary)
15:10 – Straight friends, allies & knowing the culture
18:45 – Lesbian spaces vs gay male spaces
22:10 – When inclusion goes too far (and when it doesn’t)
25:45 – Queer Camp: who it’s for and why it changed everything
31:30 – Bars vs retreats: sex, safety & intention
36:30 – Can you even “police” queerness?
41:45 – WHO’S THE PROBLEM: The Towel Incident 🫠
49:50 – Final thoughts & listener call-in

#QueerPodcast #LGBTQPodcast #QueerSpaces #Allyship #LesbianPodcast #StraightInGaySpaces #QueerCommunity #ChosenFamily #Feminism #WivesNotSisters #WhoIsTheProblem

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Why does it feel like every WLW couple is breaking up right now?
In this episode, Alix and Kayla unpack the recent wave of WLW breakups—from emotional burnout and attachment styles to visibility pressure, queer dating dynamics, and why sapphic relationships can feel so intense. They discuss common breakup patterns, listener perspectives, and how queer relationships navigate communication, community overlap, and healing after a split.

00:00 Intro + why WLW breakups feel everywhere
02:30 Is this actually a trend or just queer visibility?
05:10 Intensity, fast bonding, and emotional burnout
09:40 Attachment styles & communication issues
15:20 Community overlap and post-breakup fallout
20:30 Social media, comparison, and pressure
25:40 What healthy WLW relationships need to survive
30:10 Final thoughts on healing & moving forward

#WLW #QueerPodcast #LesbianBreakups #Sapphic #QueerRelationships #WLWDating #QueerCulture #LesbianPodcast

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Is it cheating… or just crossing a line?

Alix and Kayla kick off the new year from Nicaragua by playing "Cheating or No?" —breaking down gray-area relationship scenarios like shared playlists, DMs, flirting, emotional affairs, and “we weren’t official” loopholes. They read listener-submitted cheating stories that include coworker crushes, wedding-night confessions, secret double lives, and queer awakenings sparked by one kiss. Honest, funny, and unfiltered conversations about boundaries, emotional intimacy, and why cheating isn’t always about sex.

00:00 Intro from Nicaragua + lost episode recap
02:50 Game: Cheating or No? (playlists, DMs, flirting, nudes)
07:09 Listener cheating stories begin
08:00 Emotional affair with a coworker
13:45 Best friend confesses love before the wedding
22:18 “It wasn’t cheating because it was a girl”
28:20 Secret double life & poly vs monogamy
35:10 “We weren’t official” situationship disaster
40:20 Who’s the problem? Personal cheating story
46:00 Is staying with a cheater worse than cheating?

#CheatingOrNo #QueerPodcast #WLW #LesbianPodcast #RelationshipAdvice #EmotionalCheating #Situationships #QueerStories #DatingBoundaries

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