• What I've Been Working On...
    Feb 17 2026

    A year ago, I stopped.

    I stopped doing one of the things I loved the most.

    I stopped because I was overwhelmed.
    I stopped because I was chronically burnt out.
    I stopped because I started doubting my purpose.

    It felt like a wise and mature decision at the time.
    Maybe it was

    But what I slowly began to realize was that I stopped doing the thing that, when it came to my work, was one of the most life-giving.

    Now, it's back.

    But better.

    For ten years, I’ve loved talking about the PIES because it changed my life.
    I was depressed. Stuck. Anxious. Overworked.
    My marriage was in shambles.
    I had no friends.
    I felt lost.

    The PIES method allowed me to focus on becoming my best physically, intellectually, emotionally, and spiritually and focusing on what I could control.

    Me.

    And it changed my focus. It changed my energy. It changed me.

    And over the past year, as I've finished my PhD (freaking finally!) I've realized that the PIES is even more powerful than I originally thought.

    We're going to be talking about confidence, clarity, influence, and how what you do impacts the way you show up to those around you...

    ...and we're going to be doing it together with a new podcast, new title, and new content.

    Same PIES.
    Revamped.
    Reimagined.
    Redefined.

    Can't wait to go along this journey with you.

    Stay strong,
    Dr. Kimberly


    I'm Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes. After a decade transforming marriages at Marriage Helper, I've realized that the greatest tragedy isn't a failed relationship; it's the person who stays stuck and never experiences the fullness of all God intended.

    The Way You Show Up is for the high-achiever who is tired of "fine."

    We're dismantling the average life to build an exceptional one—using the science of the PIES: Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual health.

    If you want to save your marriage, go to Marriage Helper. If you want to master yourself and lead your legacy, stay here.

    New episodes every Tuesday.

    Don't just exist. Show up.

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    7 Min.
  • The Truth About Trauma
    Feb 18 2025

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    Meredith Ball, a licensed professional counselor dedicated to healing trauma, joins us to unravel the intricate web of trauma's impact on our lives. In this episode, Meredith opens up about her own journey and sheds light on how trauma affects the brain, the underestimated power of neuroplasticity, and the generational gaps in acknowledging these wounds.

    Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and Relationships


    Kimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 500,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.

    🔗 Website: https://itstartswithattraction.com
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    52 Min.
  • Unlocking Learning Strategies and Decision-Making
    Feb 11 2025

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    Want to unlock your potential? Discover how to study smarter and retain more information with expert insights from Dr. Dan Willingham! Tune in now and transform your learning experience!


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    Kimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 500,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.

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    41 Min.
  • Understanding The Difference Between Male And Female Emotions
    Feb 4 2025

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    Is there actually a difference in the way men and women process emotions? Find out on today’s episode!

    Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and Relationships


    Kimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 500,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.

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    48 Min.
  • 10 Things You Can Do To Feel More Attractive
    Jan 28 2025

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    Feeling unattractive? You're not alone! Discover 10 uplifting strategies to reclaim your self-worth and feel fabulous again! Tune in to our latest episode and transform your outlook! What's your go-to feel-good strategy?

    Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and Relationships


    Kimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 500,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.

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    34 Min.
  • The 5 Step Method To Improving Your Communication
    Jan 21 2025

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    Discover the 5 step method we use to improve communication. Not only does this help with communication between us as spouses, but it can also be used in conversations with friends, family, coworkers, and everyone in between!

    Let’s dive in to this week’s episode!

    Links to SMART Communication Episode:
    Episode 1
    Episode 2

    Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and Relationships


    Kimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 500,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.

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    53 Min.
  • The Truth Behind Why You’re Not Reaching Your Goals
    Jan 14 2025

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    Understanding how to set meaningful goals can transform your self-esteem and overall happiness. This episode emphasizes the importance of intrinsic versus extrinsic motivation, exploring self-concordant goals that resonate with individual desires over societal expectations.

    • Discussing personal motivations behind goals
    • Highlighting the concept of self-concordance
    • Distinguishing between intrinsic and extrinsic motivations
    • Introducing the PIES framework for holistic goal-setting
    • Importance of setting achievable and stretch goals
    • Exploring the need for self-compassion in goal pursuit
    • Opening the door for future personal growth and achievement

    Let’s dive in!

    Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and Relationships


    Kimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 500,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.

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    42 Min.
  • The All or Nothing Mindset is Ruining Your Diet - How To Actually Achieve Your Diet Goals
    Jan 7 2025

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    In this episode, we're diving deep into the truth about weight loss and fat loss, and sharing some of the most important lessons we've learned on our journey. We're going to be talking about our experiences with different diets, including whole 30, and how we've discovered the key to making sustainable changes that actually work.

    We'll also be sharing our personal journey and the changes that we've made to improve our overall health and fitness. Plus, we'll give some tips on how to stay consistent with your goals and not get discouraged when the scale doesn't show the results you expect.

    If you're looking to finally lose weight and keep it off, this video is for you! Be sure to like this video, subscribe for more content, and let us know in the comments what your goals are for the new year. Let's do this together!

    Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and Relationships


    Kimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 500,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.

    🔗 Website: https://itstartswithattraction.com
    📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlybeamholmes
    👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlybeamholmes

    Follow our other channels!
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