If you’ve ever known you’re safe but still felt your body bracing like you’re not, this episode may help you understand where that comes from.

On this episode we’re answering listener questions and continuing our EMDR series with how we each explain EMDR to clients.

We walk through the 8 phases of EMDR, which phase is our favorite for complex trauma, how a container or peaceful place can help between sessions, and what to ask about if EMDR ever left you feeling flooded.

We talk about how your brain's main goal of survival can impact you negatively, how trauma can leave your mind feeling like a file cabinet that exploded, and why an old memory can still sting like a fresh paper cut years later. We share the eye doctor and yellow glasses comparisons we use with clients to explain how negative core beliefs shape the way you see yourself and the world.

Then we get into memory and the brain, including why flashbacks can feel like they’re happening right now and why tumbling down the rabbit hole is often less scary than keeping everything shoved down covered up.

New episodes drop every Wednesday.

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If you’re in crisis, call 911 or go to your nearest emergency room. You can also call or text 988 for the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline, or text HOME to 741741

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If you’ve ever left therapy with everything talked through and still felt stuck, this episode will help you understand what’s happening underneath.

On this episode we’re kicking off our multi-part series on EMDR, starting with what it is, how it works, and why we talk about it so much.

We talk about the listener questions that shaped this series, from memories that flood you all week and vanish the moment you sit down in session, to how people begin to find self-worth after years of feeling like they were a mistake. We share why talk therapy alone sometimes feels like a Play-Doh spaghetti maker, and what changed for us after we trained in EMDR.

Then we get into the jargon, including what EMDR stands for, the difference between big R and little r, and how we explain the process to clients.

We also look at the difference between your brain and your mind, why your brain would rather mistake a stick for a snake, how negative core beliefs get laid down in early childhood, and why “I am not loved by this person” and “I am not lovable” are two very different statements.

Check in next Wednesday for part 2.

New episodes drop every Wednesday.

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We’re both licensed therapists, but this podcast is not therapy and we are not your therapists. It’s education with a little humor mixed in, not clinical advice.

If you’re in crisis, call 911 or go to your nearest emergency room. You can also call or text 988 for the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline, or text HOME to 741741

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If you're the one holding the calendar, the grocery list, and every in-law's birthday in your head, you might have wondered, "How do I even figure out if a couples therapist can actually work with this?"

On this episode we're answering YOUR questions.

We talk about how to find a couples therapist who has done the work around misogyny and emotional labor, why a quick consult call is the perfect place to ask about it directly, and how one small phrase like "does your husband help around the house?" can tell you a lot about a therapist's assumptions.

Then we get into a question that's a lot more loaded than it sounds... why we became therapists! From a midlife career shift that started in the client seat to a twelve-year-old reading books about child abuse and needing to understand why people hurt each other.

We also talk about the winding paths through grad school, forensic work, and child advocacy that landed us both in private practice doing trauma work, and the moments in session we love most.

New episodes drop every Wednesday.

Submit a Question for the Pod here: https://beacons.ai/shadyuntamedpodcast

We're both licensed therapists, but this podcast is not therapy and we are not your therapists. It's education with a little humor mixed in, not clinical advice.

If you're in crisis, call 911 or go to your nearest emergency room. You can also call or text 988 for the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline, or text HOME to 741741. If you're in an abusive relationship, you can reach the National Domestic Violence Hotline 24/7 at 1-800-799-7233 or by texting START to 88788.

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