What Your Split Energy Is Communicating Before You Say a Word

You say you want the gift. The promotion. The client. The opportunity.

But is all of you moving toward it?

In this episode of The Brave & Balanced Fundraiser, Erin explores “split energy”—what happens when one part of us wants something while another part is quietly backing away.

Using the story of a real estate agent who seemed enthusiastic about selling her house and then disappeared, Erin looks at the messages we're sending beyond our words. Because people aren't only listening to what we say. They're experiencing our follow-through, body language, presence, hesitation, urgency, and energy.

And in fundraising, that matters.

Split energy might look like avoiding the ask, softening it until it's barely an ask at all, overexplaining, failing to follow up—or desperately needing the donor to say yes.

But being “all in” doesn't mean eliminating fear, doubt, or uncertainty. It means becoming clear about your part: showing up, making the invitation, staying present, and allowing the other person to be free in their response.

In this episode:

• How to recognize split energy in yourself
• Why your actions may be communicating something different from your words
• How both hesitation and over-efforting can come from the same internal conflict
• Why being all in doesn't require certainty
• The power of high involvement, low attachment
• A simple inquiry for discovering where you may have one foot in and one foot out

A question to take with you:
What would change about your behavior if you'd already decided you were fully available for what you say you want?

Because your job isn't to control someone else's yes.

Your job is to notice whether you've said yes to your part.

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