One of the most important things you can do to find strength in duality is to learn to listen to your own voice.

This can be difficult, especially if you're used to hearing your inner critic telling you all kind of lies just to keep you safe. We create a narrative that allows us to stay safe in our world.

But it's important to remember that your inner critic is not always right. In fact, it's often just your fear talking, it is mean and diminishing.

Our inner voice is more gentle, maybe not sweet, but will always tell you what you need, even if it is not what you want.

Learning to distinguish your inner voice from your inner critic, can help you prevent unnecessary arguments, learning more about yourself and allow you to expand your world to embrace your and your partner's culture.

We are finishing the triad of things that could harm your relationship with the inflexibility of our thoughts, which creates a vicious circle of resentment, frustration, shame and regret.

When being in a bicultural relationship, it is critical to stay opened minded, because the way we grew up, our community, our family, our culture, religion, social and financial status, have shaped the way we think. And if our partner was raised in a completely different culture, our way of thinking will be different.

Trying to be right is a survival trait a lot of us have learned to use based on our experiences. But when you are past the point of survival, being flexible, open minded to explore together with your partner your differences, can be the difference between having a struggling relationship, or even a decent relationship and having a fulfilling realtionship.