Life happened… and somehow our little podcast break turned into three months!

So in this episode of Hot Flush Happy Hour, we’re skipping the usual deep dive and sitting down for a proper Kat & Tori catch-up.

In this episode, we’re chatting about what life has looked like lately — from our first in-person Becoming Her workshop and where we’re both at with perimenopause and our wellness journeys, to turning 50, changing family dynamics and navigating this next stage of midlife.

We also get into something we think a lot of women will relate to: how our priorities change as we get older, learning to listen to our bodies, and realising that maybe we don’t have to spend our lives constantly doing, achieving and ticking things off the list.

Plus, we share a little of what’s been happening behind the scenes at Inspired Actions Co. and what we’ve got planned next.

It’s honest, personal, a little all over the place — and basically like sitting down for a cuppa (or a wine) and catching up with us.

🎧 Grab your drink of choice and join us for a long-overdue catch-up.

Why does desire seem to disappear in midlife… even in loving relationships?

In this episode, Kat and Tori are joined by Dr. Juls—therapist, professor, and intimacy expert for women over 50—to unpack what’s really going on beneath the surface.

We talk about why it’s not just hormones, how stress and nervous system burnout impact desire, and why common advice like “just schedule it” can actually make things worse.

Dr. Juls shares a powerful reframe—your body isn’t broken, it’s protecting you—and walks us through a simple, practical pathway back to connection: regulate, reconnect, and reawaken.

If you’ve been feeling disconnected from your desire, this episode will help you understand why—and remind you that it’s not too late.

To find out more about Dr Juls and where to get a copy of her book "Are we gonna have sex or what? " head to https://www.juliemerrimanphd.com/

In this short and sweet episode, Tori and Kat get real about the "toxic sludge" of doomscrolling and the unique challenge of being the "sandwich generation". The heart of today’s chat is how to stay informed without losing your mind as we navigate global conflicts and rising living costs. The ladies explain that your nervous system treats a news notification like a tiger in the room, and while "witnessing guilt" is real, your high blood pressure doesn't actually lower fuel costs or bring world peace. Grab a herbal tea—or maybe a wine if your cortisol is already hitting the ceiling, sit back, relax and enjoy!