A woman says she had a nervous breakdown a long time ago and that since then she feels pressure everywhere; if she wants to do something, she reports, she turns it into pressure. Barry asks her what a nervous breakdown is, and she says she experiences it as her body not doing what she wanted to do. She says that on the telephone she cannot hear anymore, gets blockages, and cannot translate what people are saying, and that when she swallows she cannot swallow.

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This exchange is drawn from recording 4 of 6 from the 5 day talks in Eindhoven, first recorded in 1997. These and many other never-before-published recordings have been meticulously digitised only recently and are now available for listening in high quality through the Barry Long Archive.

Direct links to the full recording will be posted here, as it becomes available.

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Barry Long Answers is a new, free podcast that invites listeners into the intimate dialogue of audience questions and the spiritual master’s answer. These exchanges provide universal guidance to a range of everyday issues concerning man and woman. Each episode begins with a direct question put to Barry and his uncompromising response. The series draws from the Barry Long Archive, a repository of over 20 years of Barry Long’s teachings.

For full-length talks and extended dialogues, besides 'Barry Long Answers', the usual 'Barry Long Podcast' continues as a separate stream, with both free and subscriber-only editions available. Or if you'd like access to the full Barry Long Archive, the Barry Long website offers a subscription to this.

Barry described himself as the ‘Master of The West.’ His ideas, vocabulary and expressions are unmistakably and patently Western: down to earth and practical. His teaching is free from tradition or religion, be it Western or Eastern. Over more than twenty-five years he spoke to thousands of men and women and he addressed them where they were – in their real, living life. The reference point always being in living the truth now, not the past. In this directness lies Barry’s distinctive usefulness and uniqueness: a practical wisdom that addresses contemporary issues and presents a way to transform the unhappy human condition into the freedom of being.

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A man admits a long struggle with masturbation and sexual fantasy, and asks Barry Long how to stop feeding it. Barry says the real problem is not the girls in short skirts but the ‘psychic tongue’ of imagination that keeps reaching out and exciting the sexual demon in man. The only way to weaken it is ‘prayer and fasting’ Barry say – refusing to look, refusing to indulge fantasy, refusing to feed the habit in any way, even when it erupts in erotic dreams.

Two other men also ask about the same habit. One describes it more as a piercing longing, a deep ache for woman that seems to haunt him. The other asks what is wrong with simply enjoying the habit – “why burn?”, he asks. Barry answers that ‘enjoying it’ is exactly how the demon survives, and that the real work is to endure the burn and starve it of every image and indulgence.

“There’s a demon in us, the demon of sex – it is in all of us, and until we are able to get rid of it… It’s really hard. The only way that gets rid of this demon is to really love… the one way is for man to give himself totally and utterly to the love of a woman.”

Over time, giving up imagination not just sexually but about past and future brings him more into the present. Barry stresses that this is hard work and deeply subtle, but the sign of success is simple: one day he discovers that he is no longer troubled – and nothing of value has been lost in the process.

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This Q&A comes from the third of nine recordings in the 1996 LEICESTER series, recorded in July of 1996. These and many other never-before-published recordings have been meticulously digitised only recently and are now available for listening in high quality. The complete 1996 LEICESTER series can be heard in two ways: through The Barry Long Podcast or The Barry Long Archive.

The full recording is available here – https://open.spotify.com/episode/1JS2uAYn9KbaFEMoHWlP6H

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From the archive:

📃 Man's spiritual challenge –https://www.barrylong.org/archive/articles/6/mans-spiritual-challenge – ‘Every man has inside his body sufficient energy to take him through to the realisation of truth or God - God realisation, as it's called…’

📃 Transforming sex into love –https://www.barrylong.org/archive/articles/12/transforming-sex-into-love

📃 Man’s sexual obsession –https://www.barrylong.org/archive/articles/20/mans-sexual-obsession – ‘Man and the woman have forgotten how to physically make love. This is the greatest tragedy of all time, since it is the cause of the greatest unhappiness on Earth. This has been going on and slowly getting worse for many thousands of years so much that it is now a crucial problem. Only the individual man or woman has any chance to begin to correct it. There can be no mass solutions. The problem is too personal and too deep. Each one has to do it for him or herself, or it cannot be done….’

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Barry Long Answers is a new, free podcast that invites listeners into the intimate dialogue of audience questions and the spiritual master’s answer. These exchanges provide universal guidance to a range of everyday issues concerning man and woman. Each episode begins with a direct question put to Barry and his uncompromising response. The series draws from the Barry Long Archive, a repository of over 20 years of Barry Long’s teachings.

For full-length talks and extended dialogues, besides 'Barry Long Answers', the usual 'Barry Long Podcast' continues as a separate stream, with both free and subscriber-only editions available. Or if you'd like access to the full Barry Long Archive, the Barry Long website offers a subscription to this.

The Barry Long Podcast: https://www.barrylong.org/podcast/about
The Barry Long Archive: https://www.barrylong.org/archive

A man asks Barry how a woman’s past — the energies of her past lovers, her mother and father, and so on — affect him. Barry says that her past is all that has accumulated in her — past lovers, mother, father, the life she has lived – and there is pain and emotion attached. The man’s job is to take that world out of her – the penis, “a loving penis,” is made to take the world out of a woman.

Barry adds that a woman shouldn’t have any world in her; her fundamental state is pure love, and the world has been put into her through hurt and disappointments. Fear can tighten her vagina, and the man must gently approach her with a demonstration of love, without impatience, so she opens to him slowly.

The man adds he was naïve, took more than he could handle, and became more vulnerable to sex. Barry acknowledges this and says the greater the love in a man—through having practised love—the more he can handle, because love dissolves what is taken in. If love is not there sufficiently, there can be transference.

The one cure, Barry says, is love: the more love in a man, the more empty and absent he becomes, and the spiritual life is to become more and more absent.

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This dialogue is drawn from the 8th Leicester Talk, originally recorded in 1996. These and many other never-before-published recordings have been meticulously digitised only recently and are now available for listening in high quality. The complete 1996 LEICESTER series can be heard in two ways: through The Barry Long Podcast or The Barry Long Archive.

A link to the full recording will be posted here, when it is available.

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From the archive:

📃 True Love – https://www.barrylong.org/archive/articles/19/true-love – True love is a knowledge: I love her. To know is to love, to love is to know. Not to know what Einstein's theory is, or how to give way at the next traffic lights, not that sort of learned knowledge. But to know because I truly love her. And although I truly love the woman, it is not the woman that I truly love finally, it is the principle, that demonstrates itself in her, that I love. I don't love anything else, I just love loving her...

📃 Love, as it truly is – https://www.barrylong.org/archive/articles/26/a-love-that-endures – Most women's lovemaking experiences are fraught with frustration. Most of the experience of men consists of arousal with the prospect of ejaculation. Between her underlying fears, her reservations and hopes based on past experience, and his dancing excitement, also based on the past, there is very little chance of making true love between the two of them in the now or present. It will produce more emotion than love...

📃 A love that endures – https://www.barrylong.org/archive/articles/26/a-love-that-endures – Love does not leave men and women. Men and women leave love...

📃 The Purpose of Love – https://www.barrylong.org/archive/articles/28/the-purpose-of-love

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Barry Long Answers is a new, free podcast that invites listeners into the intimate dialogue of audience questions and the spiritual master’s answer. These exchanges provide universal guidance to a range of everyday issues concerning man and woman. Each episode begins with a direct question put to Barry and his uncompromising response. The series draws from the Barry Long Archive, a repository of over 20 years of Barry Long’s teachings.

For full-length talks and extended dialogues, besides 'Barry Long Answers', the usual 'Barry Long Podcast' continues as a separate stream, with both free and subscriber-only editions available. Or if you'd like access to the full Barry Long Archive, the Barry Long website offers a subscription to this.

The Barry Long Podcast: https://www.barrylong.org/podcast/about
The Barry Long Archive: https://www.barrylong.org/archive