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Secure Love

Create a Relationship That Lasts a Lifetime

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Secure Love

By: Julie Menanno
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Create a lasting and loving attachment with this national bestseller, a “must-read for every couple, at any stage of their relationship” (Lori Gottlieb, New York Times bestselling author of Maybe You Should Talk to Someone) from the expert couple’s therapist behind the popular Instagram account @TheSecureRelationship.

What does a healthy relationship look like?

A good question, in theory, but couple’s therapist Julie Menanno wants you to consider: what does a securely attached relationship feel like?

The answer to this question is the ultimate goal in Secure Love, an “incredibly wise and helpful guide” (Jen Sincero, New York Times bestselling author of You Are a Badass) to understanding secure attachment in adult relationships. While attachment theory has grown in popularity to explain the relationship between children and their caregivers, it’s also the closest science has come to making sense of our adult romantic connections.

In this book Julie Menanno, the expert behind the popular Instagram account @TheSecureRelationship, tackles:
-Why you and your partner have the same fight over and over (hint: it’s called a negative cycle, and underlying every fight, argument, silent treatment, or passive-aggressive comment is an unmet attachment need).
-“Instead of that, say this” suggested scripts of how to approach difficult situations in your relationship more effectively.
-The four attachment types, with exercises to understand you and your partner’s attachment style.
-How to improve communication, including staying connected during conflict by prioritizing vulnerability rather than protecting yourself.
-Why insecure attachment negatively impacts a couple’s sex life and how to ignite that sexual connection.

Secure Love is a crash course in understanding how you show up in a relationship and guides you on getting out of negative cycles to find safety in one another. In doing so, “you’ll be armed with eternal wisdom for strengthening your relationship” (Dr. Sue Johnson, founder of Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples and bestselling author of Hold Me Tight) and establish a secure attachment with your partner to create the bond you’ve been longing for. Love, Dating & Attraction Marriage & Long-Term Partnerships Psychology & Mental Health Relationships
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I feel already very much positive about my relationship. I have to listen it again…

Life changing

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This audio book is a must read/listen!
Very useful especially for couples, but also singles

This book is a must read/listen!

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Sehr empathisch und verständlich gehalten. Konkrete Hinweise, wie die Kommunikation zwischen Partner*innen in Beziehungen "Bindungstypen gerecht" und auf "nicht kritische Weise" verbessert werden kann. Erklärt und benennt wichtige psychologische Grundbedrüfnisse in zwischenmenschlichen Beziehungen. Dieses Buch trägt sehr dazu bei, den/die Partner*in in mit dem jeweiligen Bindungsstil besser verstehen zu können. Klare Empfehlung!

Must read - wenn du an deinen Beziehungen arbeiten willst

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I purchased the audio book version and this book was published at the right time. I had been in a relationship for 9 years and things got difficult last summer. It always had been difficult and this book helped me a lot understanding my girlfriend and also myself. She is an anxious person and I went from secure to avoidant over the past years. It couldn't save my relationship because she was not interested in the things I had learned with this book. I realized that I should no longer put energy and effort in the relationship BUT now I know what I will do better in future 'cause now I know what it needs to build a secure love and relationship :) maybe it sounds exaggerated but this book and also the instagram account by Julie are eye-opener! I can understand myself better and now I can comprehend different kinds of relationship styles and why someone might react so different in some situations. I got more sensitive. I really recommend this article.

very helpful and interesting

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